Depressed? Or Surrounded By Assholes?

surrounded-by-assholesOkay, the title is a bit blunt but I’m going to run with it.  It’s a legitimate and very important question to ask yourself.  Are you depressed?  Are you fed up with people in your life?  Do you feel held back and/or not fulfilled?  Before you lay yourself out on that couch or start popping pills to ease your bitter torment… you may find that you are indeed just surrounded by assholes.  The great thing about this affliction, is you have every chance to walk away from it and start new.

Surrounded by Assholes: How Do You Know You Need Change?

If your life is moving along and you feel like a passenger on a very boring train ride, or you are not getting the things you want… you can change the course.  It’s simple.

  1. Determine what you want in life and what your goals are.
  2. Map out what it will take to get there, step by step.
  3. Then begin at step one and work it to completion.

It make take months, and more likely years to get where you want to go, but with time and persistence…  the world is your little oyster!  After all the journey of 1000 leagues begins with one step!

I would personally say that anyone not on this path… the path to living the EXACT life they want, needs to reconsider their life and work towards change.  Honest assessment time… are you happy?  Are you the person you want to be and where you want to be?  I am not, for sure…. but I am working my butt off to reach my goals.  And given enough time, I know that I can get there!

And this doesn’t have to be financial or business goals… this can be having a close family, being more healthy, making friends, or anything else.  Whatever you want to improve in your life, determine what that end goal looks like, and then break down the process to get there in small, manageable pieces.

Everyone can benefit from this idea…  even quote unquote happy people

How Does Being Surrounded by Assholes Fit In?

One thing that can really deter you from living the life you want, is not sharing a common goal with the people around you.  You may not be depressed, you may just be surrounded by assholes!  And it may not be literal.  You may not be actually surrounded by assholes… you may just be amongst people that do not have the same goals as you.  This can be un-fulfilling and cause strain on any progress you do make.  It can hold you back.

There are of course actual assholes.  These people are the ones that will criticize you (see Surrounded by Assholes – Criticism) and bring you down.  I have experienced this first hand, and it is common for people to criticize what they don’t understand.  These are abusive and destructive people.  These people don’t belong in your new life… or at least don’t spend a lot of time with these people as they will only slow you down and make you feel bad about good things.

See Wikipedia article Surrounded by Assholes – Negativity Effect for good info on this phenomenon.

One of the best things you can do is spend time with common goals and interests.  If you want to have negativity, drama, and conflict in your life… sure, hang around those type of people.  If you want to get above those types of things and put your focus on being more happy, healthy, and doing positive things…  FIND THOSE PEOPLE and spend your time with them.  It is a more pleasant experience, I assure you.

When you surround yourself with positive people and people that have common interests…  good things tend to happen.  You talk about things your truly like and that are beneficial to your lives and negativity is minimized.  You find yourself challenged with these friendships, not by hassle but by doing new, challenging things that force you to grow and learn!  This kind of thing really works to make you a happier person and more positive in general!

Do Yourself a Favor: Don’t be Surrounded By Assholes

Do what you have to.  Create new friendships and relationships with people that will help to elevate you.  Find people with common interests, that push your boundaries and help to make you do things you haven’t done before.  Start to really think about the people that detract from positivity in your life and move away from those relationships.  You don’t have to burn bridges or anything… you are just spending time with people that you share a more common goal… and that’s okay.

When friends don’t understand why they see you less, they may criticize or blame.  Don’t take it personally and don’t let it bother you.  You are headed somewhere else and they can either be happy for you, or not be there at all!

Ryan GillespieRyan Gillespie
P90X Certified Trainer / Diamond Beachbody Coach

I currently live in sunny San Diego California and work with people around the country and Internationally on their health and fitness goals. Join my Free Beachbody Team, follow me on Facebook, or friend me on Facebook to join my Free Accountability and Support group. Start today!

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